Time for Change - Ornate ClockWhat comes to mind when you hear the word leadership?  If you are like most people, you automatically think of the business or corporate world.  However, the Webster definition of leadership is, “the action to lead a group of people or an organization”.  It does not say exclusively business or corporate ONLY.  You can be a leader in your family, your church, your school, your charitable organization, your business and so many areas in your life.  In fact, you are already doing this and may not be aware of it.  Why would you limit this amazing opportunity to just your business?  

I spent almost 36 years in the corporate world and have seen all types of leaders, the good, the bad and the ugly.  I became a student of leadership, and I have observed so many outstanding leaders through the years, paying special attention to what makes them successful in every area of their lives.   By applying what I learned from those role models, along with the wisdom, experience and life lessons that  I gained along the way, I am a much better leader now as CEO of my own life,  finally!

These five strategies are for you if:

  • You feel like your life is leading you
  • You are overwhelmed and overworked
  •  You would like to achieve greater success in your life
  •  You want to make a greater impact on others
  1.  Rekindle your passions:  “Life happens,” and many things that we love to do, always seem to take a back seat to the other demands on our time.  Think about one activity that you are really enthusiastic about,  and put that  one activity back into your daily routine and pay close attention to how you feel, and the impact on you and others.
  2.  Focus on the 80/20 Rule – “Perfect is the enemy of great”.  We are all goal-driven and want to achieve perfection.    Instead, focus on doing your very best 80% of the time, and the other 20% will take care of itself.  Practice letting go and set your goals to be great, not perfect.
  3. Learn from others – Listening has become a “lost art”.  It takes time to really “listen” and hear what another person is saying.  Next time you are in a conversation and you are doing all the talking,  try this technique and ask yourself  –“ Why Am I Talking?” or say W.A.I.T, and see what happens, and expect a little magic.
  4. Find your balance – Most of us need a spreadsheet to keep up with all the things that are supposed to do. By putting some “ME  time”  on my calendar or somewhere in my day,  just for me to do ONLY  things that I want to do, I have begun to put some balance back into my life since I started this practice.   Start small with 10 minutes and continue, and make sure that you keep your appointment with YOURSELF every day, no matter what, like the leader you are.
  5. Choose carefully –  I never learned how to say “no, ” and that became a huge problem for me.  I finally learned that when you say “yes” to something, you are automatically saying “no” to something else in your life.   Remember that, consciously or unconsciously, you are already making these choices, and therefore you want to weigh those significant decisions carefully, as they might have a lasting impact on your life.

CONGRATULATIONS,  you have taken the first steps toward “leading your life instead of your life leading you!  Just choose one of the above and practice for one week, and you will see huge differences.

Please keep me posted on what you have learned and what works for you.  I can’t wait to hear from you.



11 Responses to “Are you leading your life or is your life leading you?”

  1. Great inspiration! Thanks for the great post!

    • Darlene Templeton says:

      Loretta, hello and THANKS so much for your wonderful comments. I would love to know you are doing and let me know if any of those tips help. THANKS and have a wonderful weekend!

  2. Love point 5! Saying yes to something means saying no to something else. I never thought about it that way before! I will remember that one for future :)


    • Darlene Templeton says:

      Amelia, hello and THANKS for your comments. This one is a HUGE one for me, as I am GREAT on saying YES, and not so GREAT on saying no. I find that when I stop and think about it, this really helps me make decision on what I will do. Also, another one that I love is “NO is a complete sentence”. So, often when we say no, we feel that we must explain ourselves, and justify why we said no. Just another tip that works for me. Thanks again and have a fabulous week!

  3. Powerful reminders! I’m good at everything but #2, and I’m getting better on that! Just need you to hold me to it!

    • Darlene Templeton says:

      Susan, hello and you are really GREAT at all of these, but yes, I will hold you to the “perfect is the enemy of great”. That perfect gets us both everytime, so we will work on it together. Remember that 80% is good enough! :D)

  4. I’m a firm believer that we lead my example and we lead from within. The first person I must lead is myself – and since I’m the owner of my life, I will lead me to where I want to go :-)

    Peggy (stopping by from UBC)

    Peggy Nolan
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    • Darlene Templeton says:

      Peggy, thank you so much and you are right! We must learn to lead first for ourselves, before we can truly lead others. It’s easy to forget when we get so busy, but it’s so important. THANKS.

  5. lovely! moving from a victim to victor mindset is so important to making any kind of lasting change–you something important partyou summed it up perfectly.

    • Darlene Templeton says:

      Shelley, THANK you for your comments and that’s a great way to look at it. I am going to use that in my workshops. WOW, thanks! :D)

  6. lovely! moving from a victim to victor mindset is so important to making any kind of lasting change–you summed it up perfectly.

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